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I love my hometown. And I love doing live events, especially in my hometown. Add in a collaboration with a small business I love and I’m positively glowing.
My friends at Project House – a boutique business services firm led by two wildly fabulous women – are launching an event series, and I’m honoured to be kicking it off with a Beyond Compare workshop, live, here in Vancouver next month. June 18th, to be exact. (Mark your calendars.)
It’s gonna be fun, intimate, and highly interactive. You’re gonna leave with a whole new take on comparing yourself to other people. (Tip: it’s not always a bad thing. But it can trip you up in some pretty huge ways if you don’t know how to handle it.)
If you’re local, I hope you’ll join us. (And if you’re not, and you’re curious about how comparison might be getting in your way, head on over here to learn more about the full Beyond Compare program.)
Here’s a little more about the workshop:
It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking other people have it all together. Our culture loves to hold people up as stars, gurus, experts – models of success and perfection. And there’s nothing wrong with admiring and appreciating others, except when it leads us to forget that we are creative, successful and complete in our own right.
Beyond Compare is a workshop for people who want to quit comparing themselves to other people and feeling like they’re falling short. You’ll reclaim the incredible creative power that gets stuck when you fall into the habit of hero-worship or envy.
On the surface? It’s about discovering that the qualities you admire in others live within you.
But really? It’s about becoming your own authority.
It’s designed for people who find themselves distracted by other people’s versions of success — people who struggle to feel confident and focused on their own path, and instead look to heroes and role models to show them the way.
By the end of the workshop, you will understand how to…
- Transform your admiration or envy into perfect clarity on what you want more of;
- Make comparison work for you rather than against you; and
- Turn your focus back to yourself and rekindle your creative fire.
And best of all, you’ll have a template you can re-use anytime you catch yourself slipping into hero-worship or envy of another’s success.
Get ready to escape the comparison trap. Email email@example.com to get all the details & register.
(Psst… the cost is just $35. Yup, you read that right.)
If you make stuff for the web and struggle to stay current with new technologies – without having news feeds take over your life – this post is for you.
You don’t need to keep up with everything; choosing your sources carefully (and thereby keeping your reading and research time streamlined) is key.
So without further ado, here are my top news sources for busy people who want to keep up with all things web design, development, and UX related.
Read 3 Online Magazines
Subscribe to the newsletters for all three of those, and you’ll have a good handle on what’s up in the world of web making.
Follow 10 Accounts on Twitter
- Jason Santa Maria
- Anil Dash
- Christina Halvorson
- Mike Monteiro
- Una Kravets
- Christina Wodtke
- Cameron Moll
- Jeffrey Zeldman
- Avinash Kaushik
- Scott Berkun
If you only have time to keep up with ten Twitter accounts, this group of thought leaders & makers is a decent place to start.
Enjoy your peaceful inbox. Now that you have some spare time in your day, use it to apply what you’ve learned – or better yet, go make some more good stuff on the web.
I gave birth to my second child almost four months ago, and the last time I wrote on this blog was a couple of weeks before then. I was hugely pregnant; the weather was dark and heavy with rain; and I was in the process of tying up loose ends on the work front before taking an intermission.
Things can change a lot in four months. (Like, um, you can give birth to a baby and he can double in weight and start giggling when you smile at him.)
It felt a little scary to tell the world I was on the verge of having another kid (too personal?), to put my business on pause (would my clients find someone else to work with?), and to stop blogging (shouldn’t I have cued up scheduled posts to keep readers around?).
But I’ve found there’s a pretty big gap between what I feel is risky and how those moves are perceived by the rest of the world.
When was the last time you complained about receiving one less email, or reading one less blog post? No one would mind my blog being on hiatus for a couple of months.
When have you told a mom holding a newborn that she’d regret spending too much time with her baby? I’m gonna go out on a limb and say never.
When have you tuned out a writer because she shared a few personal details, perhaps a story that showed her to be, well, human? I mean, maybe you have – but I lap that stuff right up. And my more personal blog posts are among the most popular ones I’ve ever written, so I’m not the only one.
During my time away from blogging, I’ve had an opportunity to reflect on who I want to be as a writer. And I now know this: I want to take more risks. For me, that will likely take the form of sharing a bit more of who I am – the personal quirks that shape my perspective. I want to share more of the stuff that feels vulnerable – the times I fucked up, the places of uncertainty… the fact that I curse way more in person than I do here, and I’m actually really OK with that and I bet you are, too.
I wrote something recently for my friend Signy Wilson’s blog. To celebrate 14 years cancer-free, she’s running a series on “taking back your life,” and when she asked me to contribute I thought immediately of my “divorce” (which isn’t technically the accurate term, since we were common-law married but not officially so).
I don’t write much, publicly, about intimate relationships or my personal life. It felt risky to write about this. What if my ex reads it? (We aren’t in contact these days.) Will he hate me for writing about him? Have I been fair to everyone? Does it make me sound selfish? Crazy?
But then I posted it on Facebook, and people said kind things, and several people wrote to me privately and said how helpful they’d found it, and I realized that my avoidance of sharing this stuff has nothing to do with what other people actually think, and everything to do with my perfectionism.
And I don’t believe in perfect. Not really. I’ve been trying to rid myself of perfectionism since roughly the moment I realized that I had a bad case of it, somewhere in my late teens.
I do, however, believe in opening to vulnerability and in taking the risks that make us more wholehearted. This feels like one of those – a risk that moves me closer to embracing the full catastrophe of life.
And I can’t help wondering: does this resonate at all for you? Where in your life do you catch yourself favouring safety over risk-taking? Where might you experiment with being a bit more vulnerable?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to comment here, or drop me a line at lb at laurenbacon dot com.
Oh, and thanks for sticking around. It feels great to be back.