This program is for you if you ever find yourself:
- Losing time (and yourself) in reading others’ sites in the name of inspiration or research only to wind up in the no-man’s land between envy and disdain;
- Looking to heroes and role models to show you the path to the happiness you seek;
- Having big ambitions, but fearing the consequences of becoming more visible: judgment, criticism, or just the projections from those you want to connect with; or
- Feeling fear or disappointment about losing your connection when someone you adore becomes wildly successful.
There is a connection. And it is holding you back.
You two are creating a program together?! The combined wisdom of the two of you is going to shift tectonic plates. This is going to be substance served up right. I’m excited for you – and the paradigms you’re about to bust for people.
- Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map | The Fire Starter Sessions
So, how is comparison compulsion holding you back?
When we’re stuck in the comparison loop, not only do we find ourselves thinking – and often, expressing – bitter, unkind thoughts towards ourselves and others, but we succumb to a series of mental habits that hold us back in a myriad of ways:
- Focusing on the gap between your insides and others’ outsides;
- Losing focus on what you’re here to do;
- Feeling like an outsider: alone, disconnected, alienated;
- Succumbing to a scarcity mentality;
- Projecting your desires onto others, rather than going after them yourself;
- Passing up opportunities, or holding yourself back, for fear of being the target of other people’s projections and criticism.
These habits have an impact, whether we’re looking up to someone as a model of achievement or perfection, or looking down on them as a failure or cautionary tale. It’s the distance we put between ourselves and others that’s the culprit: The stories we tell ourselves about what their successes (or flaws) mean, and what that means for our own journeys.
I can’t imagine more trustworthy guides for this healing exploration than Tanya and Lauren. They bring together intelligence, intuition and integrity so naturally that you will will find yourself resting in their wisdom, leaping from their insights and energized by their passion.
- Lianne Raymond, M.Ed., life coach, educator, and yogini
Replacing Judgment with Discernment
This isn’t about erasing difference or ditching your capacity for critical thought. It’s about putting criticism in its place – in fact, it’s about expanding its place by making room for a more subtle understanding of the world and the people in it.
We aren’t holding a Kumbaya circle here. There is a healthy expression of the instinct to compare: it’s called boundaries. But what needs to go is our culture’s toxic obsession with fostering competitiveness between people…the zero-sum game we buy into, that says one person’s success means another’s failure. If we want the world to change, and evolve beyond simplistic definitions of success, beauty, and the like, we need to start here:
By exploring the qualities you admire and scorn in others, and the disowned aspects of you they represent.
By amplifying your compassion towards yourself and others – and in the process, step into your own power more fully.
By understanding where your own lofty expectations of yourself may be, paradoxically, holding you back.
And by integrating, owning, and taking full responsibility for your deepest aspirations.
Because your (and my, and everyone’s) success should be cause for celebration, not insecurity.
I’m very excited about this dynamic duo and their joint creation: Beyond Compare. Both Lauren and Tanya are innovative, brilliant, generous and highly skilled – put both of them together and expect nothing less than fireworks! Beyond Compare is a long overdue program in an age defined by “I share, therefore I am.” This is a program you won’t want to miss.
–Natalia Chouklina, Life Clarity Coach, Achieve the Impossible
Through Beyond Compare, You Can Expect To…
- Understand your impulse to compare and defer to your peers and heroes;
- Find ways to transform that impulse into healthier, more generous and joyful expressions;
- Free yourself from fears about stepping into your greatness and having others’ projections foisted onto you;
- Be able to truly celebrate others’ joys, in the way you know you were intended to;
- Clean up agreements that are unconsciously holding you back.
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Why Tanya and Lauren?
This program is itself an expression of what is possible when we let go of our compulsion to compare and choose to collaborate instead. Both of our bodies of work have led us to dive deep into the Impostor Complex. And we both came to the bottom of the well at the same time and discovered this truth: when we lose ourselves in the maelstrom of comparison, bad things happen. To ourselves, to the people we are projecting onto, to our greatness and to our success.
As leadership coaches, we know what we stand to gain, collectively, when we put down our arms and raise one another up.
Tanya Geisler is a certified Life and Business Coach (CPCC, ACC) with a penchant for clarity. She’s coached hundreds of people who were ready to step into the starring roles of their lives. She wrote The Joy Pages, created Board of Your Life and the Step into Your Starring Role program, is a blogger for the wildly popular The Daily Love, has served as contributor and was featured in Canadian Living, and is an in-demand speaker who talks with great passion on all things joy, meaning and purpose (just try to stop her). She recently spoke about the Impostor Complex at TEDxWomen.
Lauren Bacon is on a mission to help business leaders become more joyful and generous. A seasoned entrepreneur, published author, and business and leadership coach, Lauren coaches startups, entrepreneurs, and leaders of all stripes. Her writing on business, technology, and leadership has been featured on The Atlantic, Women 2.0, Quartz, The Huffington Post, and Fast Company – and her bestselling first book, The Boss of You: Everything a Woman Needs to Know to Start, Run, and Maintain Her Business, got props from both Bust Magazine and The Financial Post. Lauren’s e-book, Curious for a Living: How Asking Better Questions Makes You Indispensable, launched in November 2013.
I admit my heart skipped a beat when I heard Tanya and Lauren were cooking something up together. Two friends who are so nourishing to head, heart, and soul. Two deeply wise women who happen to have an equal doses of fun… together. Their partnership alone is a lesson in what is possible when we live Beyond Compare. Together Lauren and Tanya are unfolding a new way of navigating our hearts thorough awe and greatness, without losing sight of our own. If I had to handpick guides for this journey, I’d be pretty relieved I have them both on speed dial. And their partnership on this very subject, is nothing short of a gift to us all. An oracle.
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Can you feel how keenly the world needs us to do this work?
It’s a major, much-needed shift. And we can’t wait to experience it with you.