Comparison IS holding you back. The Starter Kit will loosen its grip.

The Beyond Compare Starter KitImagine a world where we step out of comparing – and into celebrating each other’s successes…

Allow yourself a moment to imagine that. What might be possible. What if you were free from your compulsion to compare?  What if you were free to be the full expression of who you are, without worrying about the impact on others?  What if you were free to witness and revel in the divine in you, rather than the divine you worship in others?  Can you picture that freedom? Us too. But the reality is far different. And frankly, we are FED UP with the reality.

  • We’re fed up with witnessing the very personal attacks being levelled at women who strive for success–our peers, colleagues, friends, clients… ourselves.
  • We’re fed up with the incredible backlash we see whenever one of us dares to rise up and sing her own tune–unique and human.
  • We’re fed up with watching others dim their light for fear of retaliation.
  • We’re fed up with watching brilliant women defer their authority to others who appear shinier, brighter, wiser.

Fed up with the reality and ready to change it. So we’ve designed an antidote to the underlying disease: Unconscious comparison, and the disconnection that feeds it. It’s a deep, transformative, and powerful digital program called Beyond Compare.

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If you are...

  • Frustrated by your time you spend losing yourself in reading others’ sites in the name of inspiration or research only to wind up in the no-man’s land between envy and disdain…
  • Looking to heroes and role models to show you the path to the happiness you seek…
  • Holding big ambitions, but fearing the consequences of becoming more visible: judgment, criticism, or just the projections from those you want to connect with…
  • Feeling fear or disappointment about losing your connection when someone you adore becomes wildly successful…
  • In a love-hate spiral with social media…
  • Finding yourself playing small, when you deeply desire to play big…

…then Beyond Compare is absolutely for you.

There is a connection… and it is holding you back.
You two are creating a program together?! The combined wisdom of the two of you is going to shift tectonic plates. This is going to be substance served up right. I’m excited for you – and the paradigms you’re about to bust for people. Danielle LaPorte

The Desire Map | The Fire Starter Sessions

So, how is comparison compulsion holding you back?

Does your inner monologue sound like this?
When we’re stuck in the comparison loop, not only do we find ourselves thinking – and often, expressing – bitter, unkind thoughts towards ourselves and others, but we succumb to a series of mental habits that hold us back in a myriad of ways:

  • Focusing on the gap between your insides and others’ outsides;
  • Losing focus on what you’re here to do;
  • Feeling like an outsider: alone, disconnected, alienated;
  • Succumbing to a scarcity mentality;
  • Projecting your desires onto others, rather than going after them yourself;
  • Passing up opportunities, or holding yourself back, for fear of being the target of other people’s projections and criticism.

These habits have an impact, whether we’re looking up to someone as a model of achievement or perfection, or looking down on them as a failure or cautionary tale. It’s the distance we put between ourselves and others that’s the culprit: The stories we tell ourselves about what their successes (or flaws) mean, and what that means for our own journeys.

I can’t imagine more trustworthy guides for this healing exploration than Tanya and Lauren. They bring together intelligence, intuition and integrity so naturally that you will will find yourself resting in their wisdom, leaping from their insights and energized by their passion. Lianne Raymond

M.Ed., life coach, educator, and yogini

Replacing Judgment with Discernment

This isn’t about erasing difference or ditching your capacity for critical thought. It’s about putting criticism in its place – in fact, it’s about expanding its place by making room for a more subtle understanding of the world and the people in it. We aren’t holding a Kumbaya circle here. There is a healthy expression of the instinct to compare: it’s called boundaries. But what needs to go is our culture’s toxic obsession with fostering competitiveness between people…the zero-sum game we buy into, that says one person’s success means another’s failure. If we want the world to change, and evolve beyond simplistic definitions of success, beauty, and the like, we need to start here: By exploring the qualities you admire and scorn in others, and the disowned aspects of you they represent. By amplifying your compassion towards yourself and others – and in the process, step into your own power more fully. By understanding where your own lofty expectations of yourself may be, paradoxically, holding you back. And by integrating, owning, and taking full responsibility for your deepest aspirations.

Celebration, not insecurity.
I’m very excited about this dynamic duo and their joint creation: Beyond Compare. Both Lauren and Tanya are innovative, brilliant, generous and highly skilled – put both of them together and expect nothing less than fireworks! Beyond Compare is a long overdue program in an age defined by “I share, therefore I am.” This is a program you won’t want to miss. Natalia Chouklina

Life Clarity Coach, Achieve the Impossible

Through Beyond Compare, you can expect to…

  • Locate the source of your impulse to compare and defer to your peers and heroes – and learn to use those energies with more clarity of intention.
  • Find ways to transform your impulse to compare into healthier, more generous and joyful expressions.
  • Liberate yourself from the habit of projecting your desires and fears onto others.
  • Dissolve your fears about stepping into your greatness and having others’ projections foisted onto you.
  • Become your own ultimate authority.

Bottom line, you will:

  • Regain a ton of time and energy.
  • Follow your unique path (rather than someone else’s).
  • Stay focused on your good work.
  • Which means? You are free to focus on what you want. Like, in your wildest dreams.

Free yourself from the stronghold of comparison. Your best work awaits.

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I admit my heart skipped a beat when I heard Tanya and Lauren were cooking something up together. Two friends who are so nourishing to head, heart, and soul. Two deeply wise women who happen to have an equal doses of fun… together. Their partnership alone is a lesson in what is possible when we live Beyond Compare. Together Lauren and Tanya are unfolding a new way of navigating our hearts thorough awe and greatness, without losing sight of our own. If I had to handpick guides for this journey, I’d be pretty relieved I have them both on speed dial. And their partnership on this very subject, is nothing short of a gift to us all. An oracle. Randi Buckley

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Why Tanya and Lauren?

This program is itself an expression of what is possible when we let go of our compulsion to compare and choose to collaborate instead. Both of our bodies of work have led us to dive deep into the Impostor Complex. And we both came to the bottom of the well at the same time and discovered this truth: when we lose ourselves in the maelstrom of comparison, bad things happen. To ourselves, to the people we are projecting onto, to our greatness and to our success. As leadership coaches, we know what we stand to gain, collectively, when we put down our arms and raise one another up.
Tanya & Lauren walking

Tanya Geisler

Tanya is a certified Life and Business Coach (CPCC, ACC) with a penchant for clarity. She’s coached hundreds of people who were ready to step into the starring roles of their lives. She wrote The Joy Pages, created Board of Your Life and the Step into Your Starring Role program, is a blogger for the wildly popular The Daily Love, has served as contributor and was featured in Canadian Living, and is an in-demand speaker who talks with great passion on all things joy, meaning and purpose (just try to stop her). She recently spoke about the Impostor Complex at TEDxWomen.

Lauren Bacon

Lauren is on a mission to help business leaders become more joyful and generous. A seasoned entrepreneur, published author, and business and leadership coach, Lauren coaches startups, entrepreneurs, and leaders of all stripes. Her writing on business, technology, and leadership has been featured in The Atlantic, 99U, Women 2.0, Quartz, The Huffington Post, and Fast Company – and her bestselling first book, The Boss of You: Everything a Woman Needs to Know to Start, Run, and Maintain Her Business, got props from both Bust Magazine and The Financial Post. Lauren’s e-book, Curious for a Living: How Asking Better Questions Makes You Indispensable, launched in November 2013.

Comparison IS holding you back.
The Starter Kit will loosen its grip